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Grief Therapy

For losses that are hard to carry, and sometimes hard to name.

Grief can take over everything, and leave you with nothing left. It can show up months later, or in the middle of an ordinary day. It can look like tears, but it can also look like numbness, anger, or feeling completely untethered.

I work with people grieving many kinds of loss: a parent, a partner, a sibling, a friend, or a pregnancy. I also work with the losses that don’t always get called grief. This includes a parent who is still alive but changing, a relationship that ended, a home you left, or the quiet, lonely process of mourning the life you envisioned for yourself.

What brings people in

Months have passed, and you still don’t feel like yourself
You find yourself isolating because friends and family don’t understand, or their attempts to console only end up hurting or making you feel worse
You feel numb, or relieved, and then guilty for feeling that way
The loss has stirred up old, complicated history with the person or your family
Someone you love is ill, and you are grieving them before they are gone
A parent or grandparent died overseas, and you couldn’t be there
You have had to be the strong one for everyone else, with no room to fall apart

The loneliness of grief

Processing a loss can feel deeply isolating, especially when it means waking up to a different life than the one you expected. People around you may mean well, but their words can sometimes miss the mark. It often feels easier to pull away than to manage other people’s discomfort or explain why you aren’t “better yet.”

What a loss touches

Often, what makes a loss so heavy is everything connected to it. A parent’s death can reopen the history between you, and the end of a relationship can stir up much older fears about being left behind. In therapy, we make room for all of it. Nothing you feel means you are grieving “wrong.”

Grief and family roles

In many families, grief comes with an assigned role. Someone handles the arrangements, someone manages the surviving parent, and someone just keeps going to work because there feels like no other option. Some rituals feel comforting, and some feel empty. If you are going through this far from home, there may be no rituals at all. I pay attention to these layers, offering a space where you don’t have to manage anyone else’s feelings. You only have to tend to your own.

How therapy helps

I won’t try to move you through grief on a schedule, and we go at your pace. Sometimes that means talking about the person: who they were, what you miss, what was hard between you. Sometimes it means looking at what their absence has changed in your daily life, your relationships, and how you see yourself. Over time, we work to understand what this loss means for you specifically, so it becomes something you can carry instead of something that keeps knocking you over.

Some people come for a few months after a recent loss. Others come because an old loss is still shaping their life years later. Both make sense here.

Questions people often ask

Is it too soon to start therapy after a loss?

There’s no “right” time. Some people come in the first weeks, when they simply need somewhere to put what’s happening. Others wait until the people around them have moved on and they haven’t. Either is fine.

My loss was years ago. Is it too late?

No. Grief doesn’t keep to a timeline, and an old loss can feel very present. Many people come in because something recent has stirred up a loss they never had the space to truly grieve.

Does it have to be a death?

No. Divorce, a breakup, estrangement, a move, or a parent’s memory loss can all bring real, heavy grief.

Is what I’m feeling normal?

Most likely, yes. Grief can bring sadness, anger, numbness, relief, trouble sleeping, and difficulty concentrating. If you ever feel unsafe or have thoughts of ending your life, call or text 988 right away.